“When you define yourself by your job, it’s hard to find the courage to stop working—even though most of us, in my professional opinion, are working far too hard!” – Marcelle Pick
I recently read this quote online and thought that it really needed to be read by just about everyone I know. Not only may this quote be true about your job, it’s also relevant in so many other aspects of life. I took it upon myself to put it into a number of contexts that you may relate to:
‘When you define yourself by your BOYFRIEND, it’s hard to find the courage to break up.’ (We are in love)
‘When you define yourself by your BOYFRIEND, it’s hard to find the courage to love yourself’ (It’s not going to get any better)
‘When you define yourself by your WEIGHT, it’s hard to find the courage to love yourself.’ (I need to be thin to be happy)
‘When you define yourself by your PARENT’S mistakes, it’s hard to accept your own.’ (It’s not my fault that I’m this way).
We all need to come to the understanding that we are what we make ourselves to be. We all have circumstances or experiences in life that have shaped us, but it is up to you to move past them and make the most of it. I recently joined a social media group for people who have eating disorders (ED), have recovered from an ED, or are professionals in the field. I have met so many strong, young women in this group. They have really made me look at the way people heal and how we all have the ability to change. For those of you who do not know how serious an eating disorder can be, Anorexia Nervosa has the highest mortality rate of any mental illness. For these young women to come out of recovery and out of isolation and be some of the most supporting people I’ve encountered in months is, in itself, something to meditate on. Think about the quote above and how it relates to your own personal life. Fill in the blanks for yourself then meditate on it. You are in control of your life. You have the power to change. You were made to define yourself as you wish and even to not be defined at all!
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance” -Oscar Wilde